Simple, Easy, Little Things You Can Do to Make Her Happy
Men: It really isn’t difficult or expensive to please a woman. Here are 40 little things you can do for her to make her happy (and show her you’re the greatest)!
This article is based on two very basic but enduring principles:
1. There is more happiness in giving than in receiving, and
2. It’s the little things that mean the most.
After time passes in a relationship, couples tend to grow apart. Don’t let it stay that way! You can always work on making your relationship come alive again. There are things that both of you can do to reconnect, rediscover, and become one again.
I am writing this for the man in the relationship, although she’s not the only one that will benefit. It is most likely that once you take the first step in showing her how much she means to you, she will automatically and happily reciprocate. People forget that a good relationship doesn’t just happen on its own—it takes work! (Yes, I said that four-letter word: WORK!) But she is worth it! If you truly love her and know that you have a wonderful woman by your side, you will do anything to keep her. Believe me, you may search forever and not find another woman like her. Trust me, if you do some or even all of the things on this list, she will fall in love with you all over again!
The 40 little things I am going to share with you are not difficult or expensive or perverted. These things are thoughtful, romantic, kind, funny, and (yes, guys), sensitive!
“Why do I always have to be the one to make the first move?”
Has it been a while since you two have connected? Are you wrapped up in the cares of this world (job, hobbies, television, and other things) that take your time away from each other? Maybe you spend time together as a family with your children, but not focused specifically on each other. Fall in love again, be excited about seeing each other at the end of the day and yes, make love that is tender and sweet and gentle, not perfunctory. Life is too short to waste it being unhappy.
I know you men are probably saying “Why do I always have to be the one to make the first move?” or “What if I try all of these things and she doesn’t respond? I’ve just made a fool of myself!” Excuse me for saying this, but it is exactly this type of thinking that may have caused you to grow apart in the first place.
Men, please, swallow your pride and try these things. What have you got to lose? Instead of holding on to all that pride, hold on to her! You are obviously reading this because you are looking for help in your relationship. That was not an easy step to take, but at least you took it. I commend you for wanting to work on your relationship and make her love you even more than you ever thought possible.
1 Leave Little Notes in Unexpected Places!
You want her to know that you are thinking of her throughout the day. You will be her hero if you do this! Women love little surprises, and after she finds a love note from you tucked into her coat pocket (or on the dashboard or in her lunch bag), she will be bragging to all of her girlfriends about what a wonderful man she has.
I can’t tell you where to put them, you will have to get creative. I have left notes for my man in the plastic bag that I put his sandwich in, under the shaving cream, inside a folded pair of underwear, in his coat pocket, Bible, briefcase, suit pocket, and over the visor in his car, just to name a few.
2 When She Looks or Smells Great, Tell Her!
Don’t assume she knows she looks or smells good. Everyone wants and needs to hear when others notice them. She will always want to look and smell nice for you if you let her know how much you appreciate the effort. She married you because she wanted to make you happy—let her know she’s succeeding!
When I was much younger, I was a bit self-centred and didn’t have many friends. I took a self-assessment to learn what I could do to change and discovered that people are much more pleasant to be around if they take the focus off themselves and notice the good in others instead. So give her a compliment!
You cannot believe how hard this was for me in the beginning. It felt awkward and insincere, but I kept using this technique, and it worked. I began noticing the good in others, and by telling them what I noticed, it made me feel better about myself. I was no longer self-centred, had lots of friends, and began receiving compliments myself!
Funny how that works: Give, and you get back a hundredfold!
3 Put Some Music in Your Life
Music always lightens the mood. When she gets home from work, after dinner, or just before you two drift off to sleep, put on some music you know she likes.
I know after I have had a stressful day at work, music will not only calm me down but will put me in a much better mood so that I am more receptive to my husband’s advances. Then, at bedtime, I feel soothed and relaxed and yes, even romantic. Play music for her and she will respond and thank you for putting her in better spirits.
She will be even more impressed if you play one of her favourites and dance with her. She’ll be amazed that you remembered the song she loves and since she’ll already be in your arms, she’ll probably kiss you!
4 Thank Her for the Little Things She Does
If she does something sweet or thoughtful for you, thank her! But also realize that not only is she sweet, but she may be sending you a signal that she would like the same thing done for her, from the heart.
I ask myself, “If someone did this for me, would it make me feel loved?” Because whatever makes me happy will probably also please someone else.
5 Mail Her a Card
Do you want to tell her how much you love her, but you’re not so good with words? You are not alone, and that’s why the greeting card business is so huge.
So pick out a greeting card that will say it for you. She’ll be so surprised and touched by your thoughtfulness!! And she’ll love it that you actually mailed it to her, especially if she’s the one to open the mailbox.
Not in the romantic mood? Women also love it when a man can make them laugh! Pick out a funny card to send to her. Has she had a stressful week at work? Send her the card as a pick-me-up. This lets her know you notice and care.
6 Share Fond Memories
When is the last time you shared a great memory from your wedding or a sentimental moment from one of your first dates together?
Remind her of those memories that have stayed with you and tell her why they stuck in your heart and mind. Sit down together and go through some old photos of those good times, possibly even bringing out the wedding album or pictures from the honeymoon.
Reminding her of why you fell in love with her in the first place is an important step towards renewing those feelings and making sparks fly again!
7 Make Her Breakfast In Bed
I know this sounds corny or cliché but if you feed her, she will think you are the greatest! Women love to be waited on, but rarely get it. Think about all the hundreds of meals she’s made for you. It doesn’t matter what you make for her, she will be thrilled that you did it!!
8 The Hair-Kiss-Hug Move!
Want her attention? Come up behind her (but don’t scare her), without saying a word, move her hair away from the back of her neck and kiss her there, put your arms around her, hug her and hold her tight. Don’t be in a hurry to let her go. Enjoy the moment.
She’ll drop whatever she’s doing and give you her full attention, maybe more! Of course, if you haven’t done this in 20 years, she may be suspicious and wonder what you want, so try not to wait so long to do it.
9 Pick a Chore She Hates and Do It For Her
Without being asked, do something for her that you know she hates doing. For example, if you know she hates doing the grocery shopping, get the list and do it for her. If there’s no list, tell her you to want to know what she needs so you can go the store this time.
Most women do most of the housecleaning, and your woman probably does too! Don’t let her do all the work. Take it upon yourself to do some of the cleaning (for once) to show her you’re trying to make things easier for her.
Women feel like you don’t notice when the house is sparkling clean. They think you only notice when it’s messy or unkempt. Each week, help her do the housecleaning. It won’t kill you and the cleaning will get done much quicker when you share the load. This lets her know you appreciate a clean house and how much work it takes to keep it clean and shows you’re on her team.
10 Fix It (Finally)!
Is there something around the house that she has asked you to fix so many times she’s stopped asking because she figures it will never get done?
Most women don’t like to nag. She’ll ask you a few times to fix that door that won’t shut, or put up the towel bar that came off the wall, or put up that shelf in the laundry room, but when something is not getting done, she may simply give up on you. And maybe that’s what most men are waiting for, so they won’t have to do the chore.
The last time you asked her to make your favorite meal, she made it, didn’t she? Well, then, do this for her. Fix whatever it is she has asked you to fix. This will make her want to do more for you!
11 Send Her Text Messages
Don’t know how to text? For her, learn, then text her during the day, out of the blue. Say something like, “I meant to tell you how pretty you looked this morning when you left for work,” or “you are all I can think about today, I miss you!” or simply say, “Have a good day, sweetheart!”
Many men don’t want to text. They wonder, “Why would I waste time texting when I can just call her on the phone?”
Well, one of the nice things about texting is that no one can hear what you’re saying! A couple can have a private conversation without being overheard by coworkers. Also, men, we women cannot always answer our phones while we are at work, but when we have stopped for a quick break and see that you have texted us, it brightens up our day! You don’t have to carry on a long conversation with texting, it’s just for quick messaging. So send her a few quick messages throughout the day to let her know that you are thinking of her. When she gets home that evening she will not only be happy to see you, she will thank you for letting her know you were thinking of her.
12 Offer Some Stress Relief
Did she come home in a bad mood? Tell her not to worry about dinner, you’ll order in. Then tell her to meet you in the bathroom because you’re going to run a nice hot relaxing bath for her. Don’t forget to light candles!
She’ll be so pleased, she may even invite you to join her . . . before the water gets cold!
13 Have a One Night Stand!
Is your anniversary coming up? Surprise her by booking a one-night stay in a nice (not-too-expensive) hotel. Buy her some lingerie to wear that night.
Try to find one of those hotels that have a jacuzzi in the room. Share a soak and some wine. Talk about what you love most about each other and how you are always going to try to keep the love alive in your relationship.
Put on those hotel robes, order room service, and watch old black-and-white movies. Then make love or just cuddle with each other until you fall asleep. Always remember this moment and the moment you first knew that you loved only her.
14 Let Her Feel Pampered
When is the last time she did something for herself? It’s probably been quite a while, especially if she works full-time and you have children.
Make the appointment for her to have a manicure and pedicure. Tell her in advance that you have a surprise for her and she needs to set aside the time. Take her there yourself and tell her you’re treating her to this. Tell her to call you when she’s done and you’ll come to get her. She’ll feel like the luckiest woman in the world for having such a sweet man.
15 Cook Up Some Love
She’s been cooking for you for how many years now? Do you tell her she’s a good cook? Do you thank her for making your favourite dishes, even though they take a lot of preparation?
Have you ever watched her cook? Have you ever sat in the kitchen and watched her and talked to her while she cooked? Or do you always leave her in the kitchen alone?
Try something new. Sit in the kitchen and watch her, notice the shape of her neck, the curve of her spine. Watch her hands as she handles the food. These are the same hands that she uses when she’s at work doing whatever she does. These are the same hands that she used to put on her makeup, fix her hair and adjust her skirt. These are also the same hands that gently grab you in a crowd, touch your face when she’s laying next to you, rub your shoulders when you’re tense. Those are the hands you held as you vowed to love her forever on the day of your wedding.
Show her you love her by joining her in the kitchen, sit down and talk to her as she’s working hard to prepare your meals with love.
Open Your Heart and Give
Now, of course, you don’t have to do all of these things. Just doing some of them will make her think you are the best man in the world.
Remember, it’s not difficult to please a woman unless you don’t like giving, and it is the little things that will bring her the most happiness. Also, by giving to her, you will reap a hundred times more than you are giving. She will be pleased, grateful, and she will love you more.